Should I put the word ‘feminist’ in my online dating profile?
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I feel I should put the word “feminist” in my dating profile, because it’s a huge part of my belief system and core values. What do you think?
Putting ‘feminist’ in your profile may well attract some trolls, but it will also likely help you save time by not chatting with men who aren’t believers in equality. So if you’re prepared to delete the occasional missive from a numbskull, go for it. People say that online dating is a numbers game, and it is to the extent that it helps you to increase the numbers of people who you may meet. But ultimately you probably just want to meet one person, so if your profile prevents you from meeting folks who you categorically don’t want to meet, that’s no bad thing. Just try and eliminate them by positive means – flagging that you’re a feminist or a Yankees fan, for example – rather than writing, say, ‘I don’t want to meet any misogynist assholes’, which may make non-misogynists think you sound a bit judgmental.
What’s with the photos of men posing with drugged tigers in their Tinder pictures? Do they think it’s attractive or is it an internet meme? Am I writing them off when they’re actually being really funny?
I think these men think it’s attractive. Usually they will have paid quite a lot of money while on an exotic vacation to pose next to the drugged tiger.